EGONOMICS

EGOS AND SOME PERSONALITIES CAN RUIN A CLUB OR GROUP.

Egonomics Studies the Cost of Allowing Egos to Rule Your Recreation.

By Del Albright

I have coined the term "Egonomics" to shed light on the cost of letting egos and personalities rule your recreation and possibly ruin it.

Is your club ticked off at a neighboring club? Are you drifting away from your club or association because of the behavior of a few folks? Do you find yourself attending fewer club/group meetings these days? Do you feel like your opinion does not count? Are you tired of the politics and clicks in your club? In other words, do personalities and egos rule your recreation?

Now, do not get me wrong.  Most all off-pavement motorized recreation have egos.  Usually, that means we get things done, we can lead projects or efforts, and we step up to help clubs and groups grow.  But then, on the other hand, all too often, egos and personalities become the deciding factor in too many things.

 In my travels around the country helping folks get organized and keep trails open, I have seen too many of the above problems. Don't get me wrong, there are tons of great clubs that are doing just fine.  But I've seen my share of personalities driving folks away from organized recreation.  There are ways to fix that.

In my opinion, our future lies in folks joining and staying active in organized recreation.  The more we band together and stay tuned into what's happening with our trails, the better our chances of having a sport in the future.  The more we separate or alienate from each other, the less chance we have of surviving as a recreational pursuit.  We must be together at every opportunity. 

This means that our local clubs/groups must be viable and effective.   I am constantly reminded of the anti-access (radical environmental groups) slogan "think globally; act locally." They have got it figured out.  They preach keeping the big picture in mind while taking baby steps locally towards achieving the big picture.  It works!

 Making Swiss Cheese

In large business corporations and management, there's a concept called the "Swiss Cheese" approach.  Swiss cheese has a lot of holes in it to make the cheese what it is.  When a manager faces a tremendously complex task, the Swiss cheese approach is to make one hole at a time until you have your block of cheese done.   In other words, like a long hike in the backcountry, it's just one step at a time until you reach your destination. 

This is where the local level involvement is so significant.  If we're all taking baby steps, punching holes in the big block of Swiss cheese, eventually, we'll achieve the big picture – responsible and sustainable motorized access for all!

It starts with your local club or group.  It begins with a few folks deciding to get past personalities and get something done for the greater good.  It starts with not letting someone else control your feelings about your sport or club.

 Expectations

If you have personality issues in your club or group, I suggest that before you give up, you confront them head-on.  Let folks know how you feel and what you expect.  Only then can a group or club decide if they want to make changes to accommodate your wishes.  But to me, it is such a shame to see someone drop out of a group without letting folks know the reason why.  It's similar to telling a boss at work what's wrong from your perspective so the problem can be fixed.  Many times, bosses don't know what the employees know.  So, by letting someone know there's a problem, at least you give them a chance to fix it.

There's an old saying I use a lot: "A complaint is never legitimate until it's voiced to someone who can fix it."  If personalities rule your recreation, I suggest you speak up and clear the air.  Get to the "peace table" and talk it out.   Go face to face, and don't try to solve it on the forums. Find solutions or compromises that all the parties can live with.  But whatever you do, give it a shot before you give up.

When I help folks get past personality issues, I always remind them that we are not out to change who someone is, only how they behave in our group. If a particular behavior alienates other club members, we must find a way to change that behavior.  It can be done, but only through communications that are pretty open and honest. 

In the leadership training I give folks, I drive home the point that we must let folks know our expectations -- those things that make us smile and enjoy our sport (or our job or anything else).  The same holds true for a club or a volunteer committee.  If you have expectations that are not being fulfilled, then let someone know.  Doing so increases your chances of staying in the game and helping punch holes in that big block of cheese.

3-Step Formula:

STEP 1: Find Out.  The first thing to do is find out why clubs have problems -- to recognize and accept the fact that we are people and we have shortfalls, as well as personalities.  Learn to accept the basic fact that we are not all poured from the same mold.  In stead, find ways to understand and make better use of our differences. But that comes from first finding out (identifying) just what causes our club problems.

STEP 2:  Focus.  Next, focus on the issue or problem, not the personalities. Learn to separate a problem from the person who seems to be causing it. Lay the problem on the table, dissect it and figure out how to put it back together in better shape than when you started.   Enlist the help of the person you think is responsible for the issue, if possible.  Get them to become part of the solution. But whatever you do, learn to address the issue, not the person or personality.  It’s not Joe that is causing the club to drift apart; it’s something Joe is doing – his behavior.  That is what we must focus on – the behavior that needs changing.

STEP 3: Facilitate.  Facilitation is a skill every leader or club activist should develop to some level.  To facilitate means to make things easier – to lessen the resistance; to smooth the path. In clubs and groups it means finding ways to help people help them selves.

Once you find out what is really the issue, and you focus on that issue, you then begin to facilitate a resolution. In volunteer organizations there is seldom a rank structure (like the military), so we must learn to ease the resistance and smooth the path with facilitation skills and techniques. 

Before you walk away, please make sure you have done and tried all you can to fix the problem.  We need clubs, groups and associations fighting for us and our rights/freedoms.

This easy-to-follow book teaches you more about leadership, egos, clubs, personalities, land use, and volunteerism in general right here!

Here is my take on the question: Do Personalities Rule Your Recreation?

Personalities must be addressed when you are talking about leadership.  More on Leadership and a Horse Harnessed Before All Others, here.

And more on Resolving Problems in Clubs with Partners, Possibles, and Poops.  With the three main tips for getting to the bottom of this: Find Out; Focus; and Facilitate, summarized here.

Finally, if you would like to read about Softening the Iron Grip of Club Elders, here.

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